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Tuesday, October 29, 2024
Blockbuster
It’s Friday night
And we are driving to the blockbuster on 12th street. You know the one, with the blue sign out front and the m&ms piled up in the front of the cash register just waiting to be taken home. It smells like popcorn inside which I never understood because the kernels aren’t yet popped in their little packages. We take turns every other Friday deciding who gets to pick the movie. It’s my turn and time slows down as I scan the shelves for the next best pick. It might be the lion king or something scary like nightmare on elm street even though dad says I might be too young for that one. My dad wears black t-shirts and khaki shorts with socks that are too long. My dad says movies are art and watches cartoons with us every Saturday morning. We pop popcorn with our newly found blockbuster movie, putting the tape into the VCR and pressing play. I shove m&ms in my mouth, feeling them melt into oblivion. Life is good and I don’t know if it could get any better than this. I want to stay here with the movies and VCRs. The melty m&ms and the popcorn that comes in a package. I don’t know in this moment that things will eventually change. That movies will be streamed and subscriptions will be invented that cost way too much. That movies won’t be in a physical form, I won’t be able to hold them in my two little hands, blowing into the VCR before shoving the video in. That blockbuster would go extinct, not to be known by kids in the future. My childhood was movies with my dad, the drive to blockbuster where my siblings and I could barely handle the excitement. Time stood still then and things didn’t feel so out of control. I was lost in a world where movies felt like they solved everything. It was a tradition until time took the trips to blockbuster away from me. Time takes everything away eventually but I hold onto the memories. I can still picture the inside of the blockbuster, the thousands of shelves filled with different genres of movies. I can still picture my dad loading us all up into his Toyota truck just as excited as we were for the next movie to be chosen. Life’s too short not to remember the good times. I soak them in and hold them close to my heart. Time can pass all it wants but my memories will be for keeps. The trips to blockbuster just can’t be beaten. I thank my dad for creating such traditions for us kids, for helping create my love for movies. If only kids today could know the feeling of a blockbuster trip.-M.D.L
Saturday, October 26, 2024
Scars
The scar below my left knee,
the one I smacked on the bedpost the night he told me it was over, crying in sheer pain. I dont know whats worse, the scars he left me with or the leaving itself. The calloused raised scar on my right index finger, the one I scraped along a piece of glass and then hid from my mother like the shame I have hidden my whole life. These scars are those that make me. Proof that I’m neither invincible nor shatterproof. Proof that I bleed from the inside out for pain I didn't ask for. The scratches that burned into scars on my right shin from tripping over my own two feet and then laughing, having to repeat over and over how clumsy I am. The scars that I will have for a lifetime that rot within me and fester over, spreading inside my body like some disease. The scars people have left me with, to clean and nurture because no one else will. There’s only me left to take care of these parts of myself, the scars no one no longer wants to touch. I collect scars like prized possessions, rubbing my fingers over them as I reflect on which ones hurt the most. Physical scars cover my body but the ones inside me haunt me the most, like ghosts I can't escape from. The scars are permanent, visible indications that I have had a life long lived. I have scraped and clawed my way into being comfortable in the scar covered shell that I am in. All of the memories of a life well lived. The scar on my belly button from letting my cousin pierce it with a dull needle, laughing together about pain we demanded to feel and let go. Scars can show up like battle wounds, I flaunt some of them with pride, knowing I made it through the thick of it all. I made it through the worst of the worst and I have all of the scars to prove it. I collect scars like memories, holding them tight to my chest as if letting them go would be letting go a part of me. We are all just a collection of scars some more painful than others, some not being about pain at all. Some scars are given to show that we can set ourselves free from the cages we put ourselves in, reminders that in the end, scars are a beautiful collection of memories that we have collected and refused to let go. -M.D.L
Sunday, September 8, 2024
Life is Worth The Dance
We slept in until 8:00am it’s unfathomable to me that’s considered sleeping in.
We normally wake up at 5am and I can barely see the sun even though it’s summer out. I feel refreshed as I stretch my arms above my head and yawn, staring at you. Your hair is a mess and I love the way you simply shine in the mornings. You dance around the house like you have been awake for hours. While I can barely move, my body reminding me that I’ll never be this young or this old again. I feel ancient sometimes, like I have been several versions of myself within the last couple years. We all have shed skin and rebuilt it maybe even stronger than before. I watch you dancing and I think to myself that I hope you never surrender to the years that try to catch up to us. I hope you always have morning dances with made up songs you sing to keep your rhythm going. You’re shaking your hips and I’m smiling, taking a mental picture of this moment like I do every morning. I don’t know if the dances are more for me or for yourself but I’m selfish and will say that I absorb them up, soak in their moment like it won’t happen again. Because one day it might end. This all might end and I would regret not basking in the moment of your happiness. Your morning dances are something I look forward to every time I open my eyes and I’m not sure if you register this. I feel like the dancing is more for you, to remind yourself that you are alive and present. Maybe you too think of the fact that we will never be this young or even this old ever again. Maybe time scares you too so you cease every opportunity to dance. Isn’t that how life should be? A series of morning dances. It’s like a ritual for us, a way to start the day off right. You dancing, me laughing, both at our happiest. I could bask in this moment forever and that’s why my mental picture of it seems so important. I want to hold onto this, to us, to you. You are still singing your made up songs and doing your little jig as you waltz on into the bathroom and I realize I have never loved you more than in these little made up moments. The little made up moments that make up a whole of a lifetime. Our lifetime. The one we have chosen to adventure together. You always dancing and me trying to keep up. I’ll never be this old or this young again but at least I can say I have you, my dancer to remind me that time can hold still for a split second, to remind me that we can revel in the wonderful moments that make up our lives together. We can spend this time dancing.
Saturday, July 20, 2024
Did you hate that part of you before someone told you you should?
Its summer
and I can feel the sweat trickling down my spine. I hate the way the heat makes me feel. My thighs are rubbing together, making me feel uncomfortable in my own skin. There's a hole where my thighs meet in the biker shorts that I put on under my dresses to try and prevent the chafing of my inner thighs. I guess my thighs were too much for the shorts to handle. The sweat is too much for me to handle. There's sweat in places that only I know exist in this body. I feel sticky as I wipe my hands across the beads of sweat running down across my forehead. It's 102 degrees today and all I can think about is what clothing exists to match this level of suffocation but still allows me to cover up the parts of my body I like to keep a secret. My belly, my thighs, the way they rub together. These body parts of mine all seem extra large in this weather and all the clothing feels impossibly too small. The heat makes me want to shrink. Shrivel up inside of myself like a dried out corn husk. It's unbelievably hot and I tell myself it's okay to wear that crop top but then I find myself wishing it would grow several inches in length to cover my belly that I have been hiding all winter.The heat engulfs me and immediately I'm wishing society wouldn't dictate what a girl can wear during the hottest time of year. As a matter of fact, any time of year really. I feel the underlining need to hide the parts of me that society feels is unacceptable which seems to be every inch of my body. There's fat there, there's stretch marks here. The heat makes me want to walk around naked, forgetting that these stigmas exist but how could I forget? I'm reminded every morning when I get dressed, everytime I open social media, every god forsaken time I have to purchase a bathing suit. Girls can't take up space with their revealing skin. Shrink, shrink, shirnk. It's too hot for social politness. I feel so conflicted in wanting to wear the least amount of clothing so I cant feel it sticking to my body and covering up the parts of me I was taught to be ashamed of. I can feel sweat puddling into my bra and I wonder what it would feel like not to wear one. Freedom. I imagine it feels like freedom but instead my boobs are trapped in a sweat prison dying to be released. I could curl up inside myself thinking of walking around without a bra on. The judgement I would feel would be enough to drown myself in my own sweat. It's so hot that I am gathering zits across my body like wildflowers. The sweat accumulates and the zits are signs of where it sat stagnant. Society says I must cover those up too. It's too hot for makeup, it drips down my face leaving streaks of my real face showing, zits and all. I'm not as ashamed of my zits as I am of my body and I think that speaks volumes. My body takes up space. Zits shrivel up and go away over time but my body wont, it's here to stay. My body shouts "look at me!" and I try with all my might to quiet it's screams with oversized T-Shirts. There's nothing to see here. I'm becoming one with the sweat now. I'm trying to love the skin I'm in more, the stretch marks and curves but the sweat reminds me of all the crevices I have, of all the places that rub together. There has been no point in my life where I have fully loved my body the way it's supposed to be loved, where I have looked in the mirror with joy because this body carries me. It takes up too much space and it sweats profusely in this heat. I say "it" like my body and I are two different vessels. Like I'm seperated and can't be seen with the likes of my skin. I'm covered in cellulite and stretch marks and I don't see a world that would allow me to love this body I reside in. I'm either too fat or too skinny and society won't tell me which one is worse to be. My thighs are rubbing together and there's sweat trickling down my spine and all I can think about is being accepted for the body I reside in. I take up space, I have cellulite and stretch marks because I have lived a wonderful life in this sweat covered body. My body has carried me, loved me when I haven't loved her back. I feel the need to be kinder to this body and maybe I'll start by accepting the sweat that's trying to keep me cool, accepting that my thighs rub together. My body deserves to take up space, to scream "look at me!" because it has won wars and has battle scars to prove it. It has carried me through 102 degree weather regardless of what I wear or what size I fluctuate into for that day. I should love my body for all that it is. Maybe I'll start today maybe just maybe say fuck society and love myself 102 weather, sweat, or not.
-M.D.L
Monday, June 24, 2024
What’s for dinner?
It's three in the afternoon
I’m draping my arm around yours as you push the shopping cart around the store. My legs feel like jello as I try to match your speed. You were blessed with legs that can cover over half the ground that mine can. I feel you pulling me in different directions, asking me what I want for dinner and I feel an overwhelming pit in my stomach. I can’t answer simple questions, not today. I feel like I can’t answer simple questions any day, my mind is bogged down and useless. Ask me one more time what I want for dinner and I might scream until the whole grocery store knows that I have no fucking clue. It’s not your fault, it’s not your fault I’m this way. You know I can’t make decisions and you see the crazy crossing over my face like a tidal wave. You stop the cart and stare at me. God why do you have to stare at me like you know all of my secrets? I’m an open book to you. You know me well. Next thing I know I’m in your arms and I’m in tears because I can’t make decisions and I’m failing to hide my crazy. Dammit, there’s a woman behind you staring at me and I want to ask if she’s ever had a breakdown over choosing what’s for dinner, if she’s ever been so overwhelmed that it all just wells up in her chest until it comes out in rage. These are rage tears. Rage, rage, rage. Rage for the damn question “what’s for dinner?” I know many women have been asked this before me and many have answered with I don’t know. I know many men have asked this question in frustration because we can’t answer the simplest question. There’s fucking memes about this shit. I feel the tears growing more into rage because life’s too filled with these little decisions that I must make. I’m overworked, over questioned, under qualified for this type of pressure. I make all these little stupid decisions all day everyday. My eyes lock onto yours and I can see it on your face, my crazy is showing. My hands are bawled into fists and my forehead is sweating. The tears have stopped now and you’re still holding me like you’re afraid if you let go I might explode like the ticking time bomb that I am. You finally release me when you realize I have gone limp. Defeated. Utterly defeated and exasperated. I’m a hot mess and I can feel it. Tears are seeping into my skin and smeared across your shirt. I feel embarrassed now not only for myself but for you. You, the glue that holds me together. You are just standing there telling me it’s okay, it will be okay bewildered about what just took place on isle 4. Me, a bawled up mess and you a sturdy rock to lean on. We stand there staring at each other, the lady who was staring at me has since found some other excitement, maybe it’s the sale on croissants that has caught her eye. I’m glad I’m less exciting now. Now I want to crawl back into the hole that is my flesh and drape it over me like a warm blanket. I needed something, someone to coddle me like the newborn I was being. I needed you and you were there, witnessing my downfall. I broke. The question what’s for dinner finally broke me into tiny little pieces and spilled my soul onto the floor beneath my feet. It was all too much. Being a woman feels like too much. Hell being a human feels like too much. There’s a lot of too much and not enough and now I feel empty. I wipe my tears off my face and stare up at you apologetically. How do we recover from this? You smile at me and tell me again that it’s all going to be okay. I sigh a heavy sigh of relief, thank god you haven’t given up on me yet. I lock my arm back into yours and we continue or grocery trip, you not asking me again what’s for dinner and me pretending that my breakdown was an answer to the question. Sometimes that is the answer to the questions isn’t it? Aren’t we all just one question away from a breakdown? One push, one slight tilt and we are falling overboard into madness. Im grateful I didn’t have to go through that alone. I’m grateful that you understand what it means to be a little unhinged at times. This life is full of questions and I won’t always have the answers and sometimes “I don’t know” seems like an acceptable response to me because sometimes we just don’t have a fucking clue. -M.D.L
Saturday, June 15, 2024
Bear or man in the woods?
I don’t want to run into a bear or a man in the woods.
I want to run into the way my best friend hugs me when it feels like things cant possibly get any worse. I want to run into an actual man, like the one I’m about to marry. The one who cherishes the ground I walk on just because I walk on it. One who has no motives but to love me. Let me run into the coffee shop down the street, the one who never fails to make my coffee just the way I like it. I want to run into hopes arms like she has done nothing but support me in all my endeavors. Let me run into any dark space, dark forest, dark alleyway like I’m the scariest thing in it because I am the bear, wild and unpredictable. -M.D.L
Monday, June 10, 2024
The luckiest day
Today is
said to be the luckiest day of the year. A couple days ago i had my whole body submerged in the steaming water of a hot pot in the middle of no where while a beautiful soul of a woman said to be a channeler told me I have a great purpose on this earth and that felt pretty lucky to me. Last night i danced around the kitchen to the lime in a coconut song with powerful women who have supported and raised me my whole life, that felt pretty lucky to me. I don’t know really know what the definition of “lucky” is I guess if you google it the definition says “having, bringing or resulting from good luck.” Which is funny to me, the word I’m trying to define being in the definition. Today is said to be the luckiest day of the year but I have felt lucky before like the first time he kissed me and it felt like a storm washing over my body. Luck is said to be brought on by chance, not one’s actions but I feel like I have made my own luck. Luck feels like it’s been brewed inside me and instilled into my core since birth. I mean, look at this world, this beautiful, soul aching world I was given. It’s the luckiest day of the year but to be honest I feel pretty damn lucky in all these little moments that have made me. -M.D.L
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Blockbuster
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